After we got married Jer worked in consulting for three years and then in the pharmaceutical industry for one. Meanwhile, I got my Masters and became a highschool English teacher. Then Jer went to INSEAD, an international business school in France. He went there because we had always wanted to move abroad and we knew that the best international job opportunities would come from there; recruiters come from all over the world to that school as opposed to US business schools. Plus, I was dying to go back to France. I totally wanted Jeremy to go to INSEAD when he told me about it and where it was. We had so much fun in France, taking weekend trips to explore the country and we even went to Singapore for two months on an exchange. Toward the end of his program he got an offer from a pharmaceutical company in Switzerland. He was days away from signing when he heard about job opportunity in El Salvador.
Because he had served his mission in El Salvador he was interested in the job. I, on the other hand, was very sceptical. I was very pregnant with twins and had been convincing myself that Switzerland was going to be great. I told him he could fly to El Salvador for the interview, see some of the people from his mission, but that would be it. Jeremy went and he took the video camera. When he came back he set himself to selling me on El Salvador. He showed me video of the malls, houses similar to ones we would live in, and told me all the benefits to moving to El Salvador. First of all, the job was with an airline so we would receive free plane tickets home and for friends and family to come down (stand-by of course). Second, the flight to L.A. is only five hours and just three and a half hours to Houston (where Jer's parent's live). Both flights were obviously much shorter than one from Switzerland would be. Third, and this was the big closer, I could have a full time maid. That sounded really good to my pregnant-with-twins ears. There were some other small things as well. The weather In El Salvador is very nice year round. In Basel, Switz they have very cold winters. Also, because of my Chavez heritage, I love Latin culture and have always wanted to learn Spanish. German, which they speak in Basel, would have been cool to learn but much more difficult. Speaking French helped the Spanish to come quickly.
In retrospect, I see the hand of the Lord in all of this. I probably would have had 15 nervous breakdowns by now if we had moved to Switzerland. I felt dreadfully inadequate and ill-prepared to be a mother before having children. I'm sure those feelings would have only worsened if I always had a messy house and could barely get a decent meal on the table, which would for sure be the case if I didn't have help. How do you mothers do it without help? Seriously, you are my heroes. So I think Heavenly Father is showing me I can do the whole motherhood thing and allowing me to gain confidence in that area (but not too much confidence because he did bless me with twins which keeps things interesting) before expecting me to take on the additional role as homemaker.
Honestly, I would feel successful in life if I could say I felt I was being a good mom and homemaker. That is my goal, which for now I am only working to do the first half and that is hard enough. If during college someone were to have told me her life's goal was to be a good mother and homemaker I would have been embarrassed for that person. But now I have a better idea of what that means and all that it involves. And, I feel, for someone like me, who started with what I feel was zero capacity in this area, it will be an amazing feat. Heavenly Father is teaching me how. (I'll have to write a post on just how he's teaching me.)